✨"When Love Hurts – Understanding Emotional & Domestic Violence in Relationships"✨

 

🌺✨ Violence in Relationships – A Silent Truth We Live With ✨🌺

💖 “Relationship” – A Sweet Word With a Bitter Reality 💔

The word relationship sounds lovely.
But when:

💔 Love turns into ➡️ control
💔 Understanding turns into ➡️ force
💔 Support turns into ➡️ domination

Then that same beautiful relationship becomes a place of pain and violence.

📘 Where It All Starts… 🧐

Nobody teaches us what a relationship truly means.
Our schools taught us:

📐 Math
🔬 Science
📜 History

But they never taught us:

💬 How to connect with someone
💬 How to respect emotions
💬 How to love and grow with someone

🚻 Separation From the Start

In school:
🚫 Boys and girls are kept apart
🚫 Talking is seen as wrong

Then suddenly:
💍 They are married to strangers and expected to live a life together.

🔔 Is marriage just a ceremony?
🔔 Or is it a turning point in life?

👩👨 Different Pressures

👧 To girls:
“You’re grown up. Get married soon.”

👦 To boys:
“Earn money first. Then bring a wife.”

But no one says:

💞 Marriage is not between two bodies.
💞 It is a connection of two souls.

And how can two souls connect if they don’t even know or understand each other?

🧱 When Marriage Becomes a Social Pressure

When marriage is done because of:

❌ Society’s force
❌ Family's fear
❌ Community rules

And not because of:

✅ Love
✅ Understanding
✅ Emotional bond

Then violence starts building up silently.

🌸 A Girl’s Goodbye – Is It Just a Tradition?

She is told:
💔 “Now this is not your home.”

And then she has to accept:

🏠 New house
👨‍👩‍👧 New family
🍲 New food
🧣 New clothes
💔 And a new relationship with a stranger

And the worst part?
❌ No preparation
❌ No emotional support
❌ No real guidance

❌ No Talk – Only Commands

👧 She is told:
“This is your new home. Adjust to everything.”

👦 He is told:
“You are the man. Control everything.”

There is:

🔇 No right to question
🔇 No space to say "no"

Slowly…

😶 Silence replaces conversation
😨 Fear replaces respect
💥 Violence replaces love

🔥 What Is Violence?

Violence is not just physical hitting.
It is also:

🗯 Daily taunts
🗯 Mental pressure
🗯 Controlling choices
🗯 Breaking self-respect

💔 “Why are you wearing that?”
💔 “Your family is like this only!”
💔 “You are a woman, you must suffer!”

These words:

⚠️ Wound the heart
⚠️ Kill the confidence
⚠️ Destroy the relationship

 

🤝 No Bond Before Marriage?

In many families:

🚫 Boys and girls don’t meet
🚫 No time to know each other
🚫 No emotional connection

And suddenly…

💍 “This stranger is your life partner now.”

What starts in fear –
Becomes mistrust –
And leads to violence.

📉 Why Is India’s Happiness Index So Low?

Because:

🏚 People live together – but feel alone
🏚 Homes feel like prisons
🏚 Smiles are fake, hearts are tired

It’s not due to money problems —
It’s due to poverty of thinking.

👨‍👩‍👧 The Role of Parents – Love or Pressure?

👩 A mother cooks, cares, and worries – but…
Does she ask her daughter what she wants in life?

👨 A father earns for his daughter – but…
Does he check if the marriage is right for her?

💡 True love is not just care –
It is understanding, listening, and guiding.

🌟 The Solution – What Can We Do?

📚 1. Change in Education

• Add lessons on relationships in school
• Teach what love really is
• Talk about respect, boundaries, and equality

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 2. Value-Based Parenting

• Teach children to respect all humans
• Raise boys and girls with equal dignity
• Build emotional intelligence, not ego

👐 3. Open Society

• Let young people know each other
• Let love grow before marriage
• Let families guide, not force

🛡 4. Legal Protection

• Strict action in domestic violence cases
• Easy access to:
  📞 Help lines
  🧠 Counselling
  💪 Safe spaces

💞 Real Love – The Foundation

Love is:

💗 Not a deal
💗 Not power
💗 Not rules

It is:

💖 A shared path
💖 Mutual respect
💖 Growing together
💖 Standing by each other

🌈 Who Is A True Human?

A real person is someone who:

🌟 Does not control others
🌟 Does not feel superior
🌟 Sees their partner as a friend, not a slave or servant
🌟 Loves deeply, truly, and equally

 

Let’s Build a New Society

Let’s imagine a world where:

🌸 Marriage is not pressure
🌸 Relationships are not painful
🌸 Women are not silenced
🌸 Men are not trained to dominate
🌸 Every bond is made of:

❤️ Equality
❤️ Freedom
❤️ Respect
❤️ Love

🤝 Let’s Take This Pledge:

✅ Give daughters respect
✅ Give sons values
✅ Make marriage a choice – not a compulsion
✅ Fill every relationship with love, peace, and light

🌟 Let’s Dream of a New India

A land where:

💗 Relationships are beautiful
💗 Families are safe spaces
💗 Women smile freely
💗 Men feel peace, not pressure
💗 Children grow with love, not fear

✨ Let's End the Silence…

🌺 Let's speak up
🌺 Let's break the chain of violence
🌺 Let’s define love as:

Understanding. Respect. Freedom. Joy.

🌸 Let's decorate our relationships with the flowers of kindness and care.